What I’m about to talk about required the Capt. Picard double facepalm. I’m going to try my best not to bite all of your heads off.
Only some of this will apply to you. I’m trying to respond to a bunch of people at once without using names.
Many of you have been following my experiment and commenting on it here and elsewhere. I’m really surprised by how much push back I’m getting on it. Is the world going to end if I have sex? Am I the one who causes all that destruction in 2012? Did the Mayans in their 2012 end of the world prophecies (which don’t exist) say that a male virgin would appear who would be told he has a small dick by crazy women responding to a science fiction article and that for the world to live he must not have sex at all costs? (If that’s the case send me the evidence. If it checks out, I won’t have sex ever. I’m willing to do that for the world.)
Getting back to the point, I’m getting a lot of “DON’T DO IT” for various quarters. Whether I am supposedly “selling myself short” or that I should “wait for love and not lose it with a skank” or that the whole thing will “confuse me”, etc. it’s all the same. Without some practical knowledge, this is just saying “never have sex in your life”. If that is what you want to say then SAY IT. Anything like that is not helpful since what are “better” women and how do I reasonably find them? Don’t say church. I will take you to lots of Catholic churches and point out all of the unmarried couples having sex. I can do the same with other conservative churches such as the Southern Baptists too. What you are really saying is that I should convert to some ultra-conservative faith and marry an 18 year old. That wouldn’t happen since despite being fairly conservative myself I would look like a progressive radical hippie, and they would think something is wrong with me for being 31 and never married.
Just because a woman is politically conservative does not mean that she is sexually conservative so don’t tell me that either. Several years ago I read an article about documenting this, but I can’t find it now. I have direct experience with this scenario. Kristen, one of the women I’m seeing, is a fairly hardcore conservative woman. Since you’re reading my blog you know that it didn’t stop her from wanting to have sex right away.
Frankly, I find this lecturing on sexual morality (whether its waiting for marriage or love) to be hypocritical from most of you. There are some who can legitimately do that like Hestia, but most of you are in no position to do so. You’re not so pure. There’s no reason why I and I alone should be some paragon of “purity”.
As for being worried about STDs being “unhealthy”, shouldn’t I take my health seriously? If I tried to find any virginal women, they would be way too young. Unfortunately, this is the reality on the ground. What you are saying is that I should never have sex. If you want to say that, then JUST SAY IT.
Many of you are worried that I will expose your pretty lies if I continue this experiment especially if I have sex. You might get lucky, but probably not. I’m on to your attempts to stop it. Chances are I will discover that there is no difference between being a virgin and not, that virgins know as much as non-virgins, that losing your virginity doesn’t make your more successful, etc. I can tell when this is your real motive.
And for those of you trying to build some tortured explanation why I’m unique so you can continue to believe your pretty lies, it will be a lot easier to admit you’re wrong.
That being said if you have something meaningful to say I’m willing to listen. Just remember that platitudes aren’t helpful, and I can analyze your motives. Also remember I’m dealing with the reality on the ground. If you want to say that I shouldn’t have sex ever, I won’t be insulted. I just ask that you give some reasoning (that doesn’t have me questioning your motives) and most importantly SAY IT DIRECTLY.


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