Mar 162013
 

Picard Double FacepalmIt’s been a while since I handed out any Capt. Picard Double Facepalm Awards so it’s with great irony that I give a Capt. Picard Double Facepalm Award to Capt. Picard himself, Patrick Stewart.  Patrick Stewart earned this award through pounding his fist nine times on a podium because that’s supposedly how many seconds there are between instances of a woman getting beaten in the U.S.  Stewart did not talk about men ever being the victims of violence calling on one million men to “do something” (whatever this something is not defined) about this supposed epidemic.

What Stewart was doing was part of an international effort, so we must wonder why he is only focusing on the U.S. as a source of assaults and violence on women as opposed to his home country, the U.K., or anywhere else.  Perhaps what Stewart was doing has more to do with anti-Americanism than anything else.

It’s for these reasons that Capt. Picard gets a double facepalm award from himself.  For good measure, I’m also going to thrown in a Godzilla facepalm for him.

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Mar 232011
 

I couldn’t use the standard Capt. Picard Double Facepalm pic with this post.  What I’m about to talk about is so bad that I had to introduce Godzilla facepalm.

Some women responded to my post on the lack of marriage quality women.  The first one is here, and the second one is here.  These are excellent examples of several female thought patters in action such as the rationalization hamster and treating political issues as personal ones.  But before we get to the posts from Paige and Wifey, take a look at this comment on Wifey’s post from Lily:

Kathy, I think PMAFT is the one who attacked Amanda about her post on abortion. She said that she thought partner should have a say in abortion, it would be wrong not to. I think she made a comment like why shouldn’t he get a say when he’d even get a say in buying a sofa at Ikea. And it got made into evil feminist girl says having an abortion is like shopping for a sofa at Ikea.

When did this happen and who is Amanda?  Answer: It didn’t and I have no clue who Amanda is.  Maybe Lily dreamed that I said that.  Plenty of women have had that confusion before.  The fact that this post has to be started with me getting accused of something that I know nothing about is very telling about what else we will encounter.

Both Paige’s and Wifey’s post ignore at least 50% of my original post just to claim I’m “melodramatic”, have a “melodramatic soul”, and a “drama queen”.  As anyone who actually read my post could tell, I’m addressing socon and tradcon views of (modern) marriage and the state of modern womanhood.  It’s not about me, and both of them tried to make it about me.

Paige claimed that I want the domestic skills of a “Martha Stewart” in a woman.  In reality my standard for this sort of thing is quite low.  Most women now will not make good wives and mothers.  It’s not about expecting Martha Stewart.  Being married to Martha Steward would be nightmare.

Wifey takes it way farther.  She goes straight for code pink shaming language:

As for the rest of it — entitlement princessery, hatred for men, blah blah blah, this is a complaint I only hear from one type of guy.  Hint: it’s not the type of guy women want.  I’ll agree, though, it is unfortunate for some of the betas out there that they are now expected to bring it.

Bring what?  This isn’t about me.  Anyone who has read this blog knows about what I have been doing (in general) with Sabrina and Kate.  This is reflexive shaming language pure and simple.  Rather than deal with reality, Wifey says “you can’t get laid” even when I am getting laid.  This is why most people have moved on to shaming language where I get called a womanizer, guilty of sinful behavior and accused of preying on weak women.  Wifey doesn’t stop there:

If, and only if, you, as a man, are saving yourself for your future wife — in other words, youare a virgin yourself, then fine.  Find a sexy virginal girl and marry away.  But if you’re not a virgin, then not only can you not complain, but you should be seriously worried about a girl past her teenage years who is still a virgin.

I have never “demanded a virgin”.  I’m not one myself and after having a threesome, I’m pretty far away from it.  My post was in reference to what the socons and tradcons promote as their system for marriage.  One of their standards is virginity until marriage, but that is not happening even among socon and tradcon women.  Rather than dealing with it, they blame men for it to the point of almost claiming that men are using Jedi mind tricks on women to effectively claim that women haven’t sinned in this area.  I am going to hold them to their standards.  It’s not about what I expect in a woman.  Then Wifey completely misses the point when it comes to expating.

Oh, right, because women who are willing to marry outside their culture/race/country are really going to be paragons of wifely femininity.  If she’s willing to deny her family, culture, country, and language for you, she wants your money.  If there’s one good thing we cansay about American women, it’s that they’re less — not to be confused with “not” — mercenary than other women.

When I talked about going expat, it was to limit the scope of what I was talking about.  Feminism is almost everywhere now but there are other countries that are not as feminist as the West, at least not yet.  If you’re a man and really want to get married that may be an option for you.  In those countries they don’t have anti-male marriage and divorce law yet.  This is a real problem to be dealt with.  The state of laws isn’t based on whether I’m getting laid or not.

The idea that American women are less likely to be golddiggers than foriegn women is laughable.  It’s a common thread throughout the comments of Wifey’s post since the women there have their rationalization hamsters on overdrive.  You can run your hamsters at infinite speed but it still won’t make you marriage quality.

Wifey then ends her comment with some joke of a paragraph from Obsidian.  There’s a lot of problems with that but I will focus on just one.  It doesn’t make sense since I am getting women.  I could have posted a video of my threesome with Sabrina and Kate but Wifey still would have said that I can’t get laid.  Most of the guys Obsidian claims are failing at getting laid are in fact doing a lot better than him.  They just don’t kiss womens’ asses like he does (and that’s one of the reasons they’re doing better with women than him).

Even if I wasn’t getting laid it wouldn’t matter.  The issues don’t change.  It’s not about me.  It’s about socons and tradcons pushing marriage yet refusing to admit most women are not marriage quality (and refusing to admit that there are laws that need changing to make it safe for men to get married).  It’s about women failing to be marriage quality.  More and more men are evaluating marriage and have come to the conclusion that there’s nothing in it for them.  They are correct.  The men making this decision will be fine.  It the women who want to get married and the socons and the tradcons who want to push marriage who have to be worried.  If you want men to get married then you’re going to have to improve the product (and women are the product here). Insulting your customers, men, by claiming that they can’t get laid (especially when they are getting laid) isn’t going to work.

I could ask Sabrina or Kate to marry me today, and it’s a safe bet they would say yes.  Either one of them is better than 90% of women out there when it comes to marriage quality.  That still doesn’t mean marrying them is a good idea.  Things are so bad that Sabrina and Kate don’t meet a very low standard for marriage quality needed to get married.  Even if they met the standard, it doesn’t matter.  What about everyone else?  I’m not going to say, “I’ve got mine, screw you”.  This is a real problem, and it’s not about me.

Mar 082011
 

Picard Double FacepalmI haven’t given out a Captain Picard Double Facepalm Award in a long time.  (I need to start doing it on a regular basis.)  This award goes to Scott Adams who I just talked about in my last post.  It’s not for simply agreeing with feminism or being a mangina.  It takes a lot more than that to get a Capt. Picard Double Facepalm Award.  Read what Peter told us about Scott Adams:

Adams went through two jobs at two different corporations, and got put on the management “fast track” at both because he was pretty smart. Both times, he got told he’s not getting promoted because there are already too many men in management at these companies and that they’re saving space for women.

He left the second company after starting Dilbert, and eventually grew that into the modest empire that it is. At the end of it all, the best woman this accomplished man could get, after 40+ years of getting screwed by feminism and getting no help towards his accomplishments, the best he could get is a single mom with three kids. That’s the real joke.

Likely, he’s accepted his lot in life and is pretty satisfied with getting the calved-out bajingo of his wife and building her a new house. If he’s really lucky, then the kids will be grown up by the time Shelley (I think her name is) divorces him. If not, he’ll lose half of Dilbert, half his restaurants, his house, and pay her support for his troubles. We’ll see then what his thoughts about men’s rights are.

I bolded a part of Peter’s comment because it deserves special attention.  I would say that “the best he BELIEVED he could get is a single mom with three kids.”  Scott Adams probably could have done better.  If nothing else he could have stayed single rather than get together with a single mother with kids.  Scott Adams has been negatively impacted by feminism yet he still supports it, not just with words but by playing Captain Save A Ho to a single mother.  It’s almost like he’s suffering from a feminist Stockholm Syndrome.

Scott Adams didn’t just shoot himself in the foot.  He shot himself in the foot over and over again and for good measure dropped a nuclear bomb on his leg.  Scott Adams is acting against his own best interests at an extreme level, and that level of stupidity and insanity is what earns him a Captain Picard Double Facepalm Award.

Jul 082010
 

It’s too bad I don’t issue a monthly Captain Picard Double Facepalm Award.  If I did, this month’s winner would be Obsidian.  He started out bad enough but he really dug a hole for himself with his second post.  I haven’t said anything because so much of it has already been covered effectively by others from the race baiting, to the bizarre claims that Spearhead commenters are anti-hygene, to the refusal to answer simple questions of why should any of the “slobs” dress up since they have better game than Obsidian and don’t need to, etc. I decided to write this post because after taking a look at some of the links in the comments of Obsidian’s second post I noticed something, how this was being used in a way that facilitated more shaming language.  Take what Susan Walsh wrote:

Hi Obs, I just left a comment on your blog. I read the Spearhead comments, but honestly, I feel really uncomfortable over there. It’s the online equivalent of walking home alone late at night in a dark alley. Cue the scary music. I think your post is right on.

Late at night in a dark alley?  So if you go to The Spearhead you might get mugged like if you were alone late at night in a dark alley????  I have never even heard of someone getting mugged over the internet but I guess there’s a first time for everything.  If you have been reading this blog for a while you should recognize this immediately as code orange shaming language. Susan Walsh at least stuck to only one form of shaming language.  Chic Noir used multiple colors of shaming language in one paragraph:

Many of them may well be frustrated virgins(nothing wrong with being a male virgin). Others have mental issues. Another group are gay or closeted gay men ,and a smaller number may have horrible relationships with their mothers.

She forgot to include how anyone who visits The Spearhead has a small dick too. Nobody should be surprised that Obsidian got this level of disagreement.  He’s obsessed with the idea that white guys in this part of the internet have an “irrational hatred” for Michelle Obama and claims that we “need therapy”.  What he’s talking about does not exist.  How many white guys around here even give that much thought to Michelle Obama?  I don’t.  I have many other more important things to think about.  Remember guys you “need therapy” if you don’t spend at least 3 hours a day thinking positive thoughts about Michelle Obama.  Obsidian doesn’t stop there because he claims again that white guys need therapy and have a bunch of neuroses.  This is code white shaming language. There’s a reason why I am pointing out some of the shaming language used here.  It’s the same reason the Catalog of Anti-Male Shaming Language exists.  It’s because shaming language is used to attempt to shut down debate and the raising of legitimate concerns.  A lot of what happened here had to do with how Obsidian refused to answer a few legitimate questions.  It reminds me of how when men bring up legitimate concerns about the marriage system, for example, the response is to step up the shaming language.  Shaming language has nothing to do with the men it is used against.  Instead it tells us everything we need to know about the user and that is what we see here.

Nov 092009
 

Picard Double FacepalmWhat I’m about to talk about required the Capt. Picard double facepalm.  I’m going to try my best not to bite all of your heads off.

Only some of this will apply to you.  I’m trying to respond to a bunch of people at once without using names.

Many of you have been following my experiment and commenting on it here and elsewhere.  I’m really surprised by how much push back I’m getting on it.  Is the world going to end if I have sex?  Am I the one who causes all that destruction in 2012?  Did the Mayans in their 2012 end of the world prophecies (which don’t exist) say that a male virgin would appear who would be told he has a small dick by crazy women responding to a science fiction article and that for the world to live he must not have sex at all costs?  (If that’s the case send me the evidence.  If it checks out, I won’t have sex ever.  I’m willing to do that for the world.)

Getting back to the point, I’m getting a lot of “DON’T DO IT” for various quarters.  Whether I am supposedly “selling myself short” or that I should “wait for love and not lose it with a skank” or that the whole thing will “confuse me”, etc. it’s all the same.  Without some practical knowledge, this is just saying “never have sex in your life”.  If that is what you want to say then SAY IT.  Anything like that is not helpful since what are “better” women and how do I reasonably find them?  Don’t say church.  I will take you to lots of Catholic churches and point out all of the unmarried couples having sex.  I can do the same with other conservative churches such as the Southern Baptists too.  What you are really saying is that I should convert to some ultra-conservative faith and marry an 18 year old.  That wouldn’t happen since despite being fairly conservative myself I would look like a progressive radical hippie, and they would think something is wrong with me for being 31 and never married.

Just because a woman is politically conservative does not mean that she is sexually conservative so don’t tell me that either.  Several years ago I read an article about documenting this, but I can’t find it now.  I have direct experience with this scenario.  Kristen, one of the women I’m seeing, is a fairly hardcore conservative woman.  Since you’re reading my blog you know that it didn’t stop her from wanting to have sex right away.

Frankly, I find this lecturing on sexual morality (whether its waiting for marriage or love) to be hypocritical from most of you.  There are some who can legitimately do that like Hestia, but most of you are in no position to do so.  You’re not so pure.  There’s no reason why I and I alone should be some paragon of “purity”.

As for being worried about STDs being “unhealthy”, shouldn’t I take my health seriously?  If I tried to find any virginal women, they would be way too young.  Unfortunately, this is the reality on the ground.  What you are saying is that I should never have sex.  If you want to say that, then JUST SAY IT.

Many of you are worried that I will expose your pretty lies if I continue this experiment especially if I have sex.  You might get lucky, but probably not.  I’m on to your attempts to stop it.  Chances are I will discover that there is no difference between being a virgin and not, that virgins know as much as non-virgins, that losing your virginity doesn’t make your more successful, etc.  I can tell when this is your real motive.

And for those of you trying to build some tortured explanation why I’m unique so you can continue to believe your pretty lies, it will be a lot easier to admit you’re wrong.

That being said if you have something meaningful to say I’m willing to listen.  Just remember that platitudes aren’t helpful, and I can analyze your motives.  Also remember I’m dealing with the reality on the ground.  If you want to say that I shouldn’t have sex ever, I won’t be insulted.  I just ask that you give some reasoning (that doesn’t have me questioning your motives) and most importantly SAY IT DIRECTLY.

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