Over the years I have been talking about technologies like artificial wombs, I get people saying that artificial wombs and related technologies are bad because the two parent families are superior for raising children. While what they’re saying is technically true, it ignores several problems.
The worst possible situation to raise children is a single mother family by far. If we were just comparing single mother families to single father families, the single father families would be significantly better for raising children. The damage to society done by single mother headed families has been extensive and documented for decades so we know this to be true. My critics often would agree with this but point out that the 2 parent family is better than both single mother and single father families.
The problem with this is that for a 2 parent family to be better than a single father family, it must stay a 2 parent family. As we know divorce is rampant so at least half of 2 parent families will not stay 2 parent families. What happens during a divorce? A 2 parent family becomes either a single father family or a single mother family. As we all know, in almost all cases it’s a single mother family. This negates any benefit of a 2 parent family.
This is why we need to support single father families and ways of creating them such as artificial wombs in the future or international surrogacy now. A 2 parent family is no good if it just ends up as a single mother family, and that happens at least 50% of the time. A single father family isn’t going to become a single mother family except in some rare cases. Single father families may not be optimal, but given the current realities of divorce, on balance, it’s a lot better than any of the alternatives.