Too few people are questioning the very obvious problem that the institution that conducts the marriage is not the same institution that conducts divorces. The two have no relation. How can so few people see the obvious problems with this.
So either the church should handle divorces, or the courts should handle the marital contract (which would itself make the lopsided arrangement far more clear to the man).
Also, if the church is not at least lobbying hard for this, that means they are either not serious about keeping the institution of marriage alive, or are too stupid to even grasp the dynamics.
That is why the focus on gay marriage is more irritating than anything else. They actually believe *that* is a threat to marriage. Rather, it is like firing a bullet into a corpse that has already been dead for a year.
This is very true. When people get married, they go to a church (or some other place that isn’t a courthouse) and only give minimal thought to the legal side of it. When they get divorced, they go to the courthouse and maybe later think about the religious side like getting an annulment (if that’s even relevant). The primary institution of marriage to most people is not the law/courts/government, but for divorce it is. This is why to solve the problem of rampant female initiated divorce, the solution must deal with the law/courts/government. Tradcons and socons refuse to get this so they try to fight this as a culture war issue which leaves them fighting a useless war against gay marriage. They ignore the fact that the biggest threat to marriage is female initiated divorce a lot of which is done by churchgoing Christian women.