Many of you may not have noticed by there is an idiot woman responding to my Denying Grandchildren post. Eventually she gets to saying this:
I finally managed to check this website in detail and… honestly, I find this place repuslvie. There is little to no actual critical comments and reviews on feminism and feminist theory but mainly cherry picking and blatant misinterpretation. And LOTS of hate. Most of it… it’s just pure women hating. For less than 75 articles I have seen the word “bitch” and “sluts” used as a derogatory word too many times to feel fine. Subtle or not so subtle recommendations about sexual and physical abuse and other stuff which made me cringe.
Besides the liberal amount of shaming language she used, she accuses me of “recommending sexual and physical abuse”. This was no different that when Gordon Ramsay called out that female restaurant owner on his Kitchen Nightmares show for being lazy, ungrateful when it came to her dad’s money that bailed her out, and needing a kick in the ass, and he got accused of being abusive for it. If you’re a man, and you actually dare to disagree with a woman or worse yet call her out on her behavior, then you’re “abusive”. Given how often “abusive” gets thrown around against men (to the point of where Terry O’Neill of NOW called the Bush tax cuts “abusive”), it needs its own category of shaming language. Originally, I had in mind that “you’re abusive” would be part of a shaming language category of criminality but this clearly needs to be separate.
Charge of Being Abusive (Code Tangerine)
Discussion: The target is accused of being abusive. Generally the accusation is vague about the “abuse” to imply a similarity to something like domestic abuse or sexual abuse while avoiding a specific example of how the target is “abusive”. Examples:
- You’re abusive
- What you said is abusive to women
Response: Abuse has a real definition. It does not involve the simple act of disagreeing with a woman or calling out a woman on her behavior. Associating either of those things with abuse just cheapens what real victims of abuse have gone through. Since the accuser can not show actual examples of the target committing actual abuse, it is obvious that the accusations of abuse against the target are nonsense.