One way that the costs of misandry get transferred back on to women is by denying marriage and denying children to women. There is another aspect of this that deserves exploration. Denying marriage on children to women also denies grandchildren.
Most ways that the cost of misandry will get transferred back on to women avoid a group that bears a great deal of responsibility for feminism, our parents’ generation, in particular our mothers. Our parents’ generation had one foot in the old system and one foot in the feminist system. This meant that many of them have completely avoided the consequences of supporting feminism. I see this with my own parents who don’t particularly think of themselves as “feminists” but have effectively supported feminism all the same. They have experienced absolutely no consequences from their support of feminism. This goes for both my mom and my dad. I suspect it’s the same with a lot of your parents.
While many of our fathers have been negatively impacted by divorce, they still supported feminism. They just got married again and again. Even when a divorce happened they didn’t experience it as a consequence of feminism. It would be bad enough if the devastation from divorce in our parent’s generation was limited to our fathers, but many of our fathers still pushed for us to get married despite what they experienced feeding the machinery of feminism.
If there’s one group that needs to have the costs of misandry transferred back on to them but isn’t, it is our parent’s generation. One way to do that, possibly the biggest and best way to do that, is to deny grandchildren. Fortunately, it works as part and parcel of denying marriage and children. Most of our parents want grandchildren so denying them grandchildren really forces the cost of misandry back on to them. This is particularly effective when done by only children or by men who have only brothers. Even for men who have sisters, this can still be effective if it prevents the “family name” from being passed on.
I have supported use of surrogate mothers at places like the Rotunda Clinic for men who want children but want to avoid the feminist marriage/child support/alimony apparatus. Considering the importance denying grandchildren, I’m wondering if using surrogate mothers is a good idea now. On the other hand, having grandchildren due to us using surrogate motherhood instead of by “traditional” means may be in itself painful enough for our parents because our parents would then be put in odd situations like having to explain to their friends why their sons are single fathers since we weren’t married nor got our girlfriends pregnant (or avoiding explaining it to their friends and hoping it never gets discovered).
Regardless the idea of denying grandchildren as a means of transferring the costs of misandry on to those who caused it is something that needs to be explored further. We also should brainstorm other ideas on how to transfer the costs of misandry back on to our parents’ generation since many of them are getting off scot free for their support of feminism.