We constantly hear from the socons and tradcons that men should get married and ignore all of the issues out there like anti-family courts. There’s an assumption that there’s enough marriage quality women out there. This is not the case. Slwerner had this to say about that:
While this is certainly true, there is yet another aspect to this left unaddressed. Elusive Wapiti hints at it:
EW – ”Seems to me that the issue isn’t so much that older guys are snatching up the good girls after playing the bad girls, but that the supply of good girls doesn’t match demand.”
It’s a issue that the “shut up and marry” crowd (Laura Wood, and to a lesser extent, Mark Richardson, for examples) try, rather unconvincingly, to dance around – there is an over-all shortage of marriageable women (young and old alike) relative to the number of men who’d otherwise like to get married.
The pathologies that reduce the pool of women who are worthy of marriage aren’t limited to those involving promiscuity. They can also include over-blown entitlement attitudes, general contempt for men (as taught to them via the feminist-influenced/dominated educational system), seriously poor choices while younger (choosing poorly to bear children by/marry “bad boys”), the tendency towards “career-first” attitudes, and the increasing problems of obesity in girls at younger ages.
This is not to try to diminish the pathologies of young men, but merely to point out that there just aren’t that many young women entering their early 20’s who will be likely to be good marital prospects. Thus, even for those “good guys” who patiently wait for the right time, right situation, and right girl; they may ultimately find that while the first two have come about, the last, “the right girl”, may never happen for them. The pool is just too small for all interested men to hope to find a young women worthy of the considerable risk and investment required for them to marry her.
If you ask the socons and tradcons like The (Not) Thinking Housewife and Mark Richardson if men should marry women that are not marriage quality women, they will say no. However, they will still tell men to get married. They will dance around the issue of who men are supposed to get married to. There simply are not enough marriage quality women to go around. Significant numbers of men will have to remain unmarried, and if you want to save marriage that’s the way it should be because men marrying below marriage quality women does not save marriage. It destroys it. The socons and tradcons would have men do what destroys marriage despite their support for marriage.
There’s a lot more problems than just female sexual behavior. There’s a long list of issues that make women below marriage quality. Some of these issues are as basic as lacking cooking knowledge. A better way of putting that would be a lack of basic life skills knowledge. Lots of women are varying degrees of being entitlement princesses. Many women have assimilated feminist contempt and hate for men, and that includes conservative, and tradition church going women who insist they are “not feminists”. Most women are completely unsuitable for motherhood. An even larger group of women is unsuitable for being the mothers of boys. The list of issues is very long.
Sexual behavior is a huge problem too. Even among traditional church going women you’re still not going to find any virgin women (if we’re talking about a traditional Christian perspective of marriage quality women) outside of isolated and obscure communities and churches which you will never be able to access since you weren’t born into them. Even traditional churches won’t take the problem seriously. When it comes to sexual sin (like so many others) the churches, including the traditional ones, will simply blame men in each in every case even if this requires them to effectively claim that men are using Jedi mind tricks on women. Remember the truth of hypergamy and the 80/20 rule. Twenty percent of the men are having sex with 80% of the women so the churches including the traditional ones are going after the wrong group when it comes to sexual sin.
Except for men willing to go expat (and there’s a shrinking number of destinations available for this), very few men should get married. (And if you’re going to go expat to get married, you must never bring your wife back to anywhere in the feminized world.) The problems are larger than just anti-family courts and fathers rights issues even though those are massive. Very few women out there are marriage quality. They don’t meet the standard for women you should be marrying. Think of the four women I have been with. All of them are of higher marriage quality than at least 90% of women out there, yet none of them meet the minimum standard for getting married. You may be lucky enough to be one of the one in a thousand men who finds a woman of marriage quality but chances are you won’t be.
Many of you men out there might be thinking about getting married because you want kids. Wanting kids is all well and good but ask yourself, can you find a woman that meets the minimum standard for being a good mother? The answer in most cases is going to be no, PARTICULARLY IF YOU WANT TO HAVE SONS. If you’re looking a for a marriage quality woman, that is something to think about. How will this woman raise your sons? Most likely she will fail that standard. If you want to have kids, then you’re better off going to a place like the Rotunda Clinic in India and using one of their surrogate mothers. Given how few women out there are marriage quality, we’re getting to the point where single fatherhood is a superior option for raising kids.