I still have to bring out the Godzilla facepalm because the reaction to this week’s three posts on marriage is still lunacy. Here is a comment that gets to the heart of the issue:
Whether or not men measure up to the standards of those women is not really relevant to my point: If only 5% of women are marriage-grade, there’s a serious wife shortage, as a low-quality man is better off alone than saddled with a low-quality wife. Low-quality wives are albatrosses in the modern world.
These are two different observations:
a.) “I can’t persuade a good woman to marry me.”
b.) “There don’t seem to be any women worth marrying.”
PMAFT is saying (b.), and y’all (wifey, you, etc.) are acting as if he’s saying (a.). No … they’re different statements.
That is correct. I am saying b. In addition the laws concerning marriage make it dangerous for men to get married so even if there were more marriage quality women, getting married would still be a bad idea. Rather than dealing with the issue as it really is, my detractors just called me a drama queen or wanted to make the issue about my sex life. The lack of marriage quality women and the failure of socons and tradcons to deal with this problem (and all of the other problems that make modern marriage dangerous for men) is not about my personal life. My sex life did not cause marriage quality women to disappear.
Commentary about my personal life just proves that my detractors don’t have a clue about this issue. There’s a reason why there are tons of websites telling men not to marry, but none telling women not to. There are bridal mags and shows, but not groom counterparts. Saying that I’m (or a group of men that I’m a part of) isn’t marriage quality is meaningless. We are not the ones pushing marriage. As marriage is dangerous for men, we are avoiding it until there’s a change that makes marriage safe again or avoiding it forever. What we are doing is not letting you weasel out of your own standards. If you are going to push marriage, we are going to point out where you have failed in your supposed goals, and the failures of socons and tradcons in this area are numerous.