Some women responded to my post on the lack of marriage quality women. The first one is here, and the second one is here. These are excellent examples of several female thought patters in action such as the rationalization hamster and treating political issues as personal ones. But before we get to the posts from Paige and Wifey, take a look at this comment on Wifey’s post from Lily:
Kathy, I think PMAFT is the one who attacked Amanda about her post on abortion. She said that she thought partner should have a say in abortion, it would be wrong not to. I think she made a comment like why shouldn’t he get a say when he’d even get a say in buying a sofa at Ikea. And it got made into evil feminist girl says having an abortion is like shopping for a sofa at Ikea.
When did this happen and who is Amanda? Answer: It didn’t and I have no clue who Amanda is. Maybe Lily dreamed that I said that. Plenty of women have had that confusion before. The fact that this post has to be started with me getting accused of something that I know nothing about is very telling about what else we will encounter.
Both Paige’s and Wifey’s post ignore at least 50% of my original post just to claim I’m “melodramatic”, have a “melodramatic soul”, and a “drama queen”. As anyone who actually read my post could tell, I’m addressing socon and tradcon views of (modern) marriage and the state of modern womanhood. It’s not about me, and both of them tried to make it about me.
Paige claimed that I want the domestic skills of a “Martha Stewart” in a woman. In reality my standard for this sort of thing is quite low. Most women now will not make good wives and mothers. It’s not about expecting Martha Stewart. Being married to Martha Steward would be nightmare.
Wifey takes it way farther. She goes straight for code pink shaming language:
As for the rest of it — entitlement princessery, hatred for men, blah blah blah, this is a complaint I only hear from one type of guy. Hint: it’s not the type of guy women want. I’ll agree, though, it is unfortunate for some of the betas out there that they are now expected to bring it.
Bring what? This isn’t about me. Anyone who has read this blog knows about what I have been doing (in general) with Sabrina and Kate. This is reflexive shaming language pure and simple. Rather than deal with reality, Wifey says “you can’t get laid” even when I am getting laid. This is why most people have moved on to shaming language where I get called a womanizer, guilty of sinful behavior and accused of preying on weak women. Wifey doesn’t stop there:
If, and only if, you, as a man, are saving yourself for your future wife — in other words, youare a virgin yourself, then fine. Find a sexy virginal girl and marry away. But if you’re not a virgin, then not only can you not complain, but you should be seriously worried about a girl past her teenage years who is still a virgin.
I have never “demanded a virgin”. I’m not one myself and after having a threesome, I’m pretty far away from it. My post was in reference to what the socons and tradcons promote as their system for marriage. One of their standards is virginity until marriage, but that is not happening even among socon and tradcon women. Rather than dealing with it, they blame men for it to the point of almost claiming that men are using Jedi mind tricks on women to effectively claim that women haven’t sinned in this area. I am going to hold them to their standards. It’s not about what I expect in a woman. Then Wifey completely misses the point when it comes to expating.
Oh, right, because women who are willing to marry outside their culture/race/country are really going to be paragons of wifely femininity. If she’s willing to deny her family, culture, country, and language for you, she wants your money. If there’s one good thing we cansay about American women, it’s that they’re less — not to be confused with “not” — mercenary than other women.
When I talked about going expat, it was to limit the scope of what I was talking about. Feminism is almost everywhere now but there are other countries that are not as feminist as the West, at least not yet. If you’re a man and really want to get married that may be an option for you. In those countries they don’t have anti-male marriage and divorce law yet. This is a real problem to be dealt with. The state of laws isn’t based on whether I’m getting laid or not.
The idea that American women are less likely to be golddiggers than foriegn women is laughable. It’s a common thread throughout the comments of Wifey’s post since the women there have their rationalization hamsters on overdrive. You can run your hamsters at infinite speed but it still won’t make you marriage quality.
Wifey then ends her comment with some joke of a paragraph from Obsidian. There’s a lot of problems with that but I will focus on just one. It doesn’t make sense since I am getting women. I could have posted a video of my threesome with Sabrina and Kate but Wifey still would have said that I can’t get laid. Most of the guys Obsidian claims are failing at getting laid are in fact doing a lot better than him. They just don’t kiss womens’ asses like he does (and that’s one of the reasons they’re doing better with women than him).
Even if I wasn’t getting laid it wouldn’t matter. The issues don’t change. It’s not about me. It’s about socons and tradcons pushing marriage yet refusing to admit most women are not marriage quality (and refusing to admit that there are laws that need changing to make it safe for men to get married). It’s about women failing to be marriage quality. More and more men are evaluating marriage and have come to the conclusion that there’s nothing in it for them. They are correct. The men making this decision will be fine. It the women who want to get married and the socons and the tradcons who want to push marriage who have to be worried. If you want men to get married then you’re going to have to improve the product (and women are the product here). Insulting your customers, men, by claiming that they can’t get laid (especially when they are getting laid) isn’t going to work.
I could ask Sabrina or Kate to marry me today, and it’s a safe bet they would say yes. Either one of them is better than 90% of women out there when it comes to marriage quality. That still doesn’t mean marrying them is a good idea. Things are so bad that Sabrina and Kate don’t meet a very low standard for marriage quality needed to get married. Even if they met the standard, it doesn’t matter. What about everyone else? I’m not going to say, “I’ve got mine, screw you”. This is a real problem, and it’s not about me.