The socons think that marriage by name alone is going to save the world. A piece of paper will solve everything. Yes, just like how that degree increased our incomes and saved our quality of life. In fact, getting married to modern women is like getting a degree. You think you are being sold an asset, but what you are getting is a liability. There should not be a push to get people to marry, but rather to focus on strengthening the marriages that already exist. If they care about marriage so much, efforts would be better spent helping the countless struggling Christian marriages. I mean most Christians can’t even get it right (as evidenced by the Christian divorce rate), so why should men think that marriage is such a great thing. Those in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones; so, next time the socons toss the stone of “your not a real man unless you marry”, one could toss a stone back, “your not a real Christian unless you stay married”.
In short, socons/Christians, etc, need to put up or shut up. They need to show the world that marriage is a benefit and/or needs to start producing women that are wife material, because right now the world looks at Christians and their divorce rate and thinks, “forget that!”. “If they can’t even manage it, how can I?” Walk the talk.
As for the quality of women, another aspect is that girls aren’t raised to be wives. They are raised to be careerists or “whatever makes you happy” (which is never being a wife). There was a time when mothers would prepare daughters for marriage and they would be domesticated, but now they are mostly “feral females” (thanks to Dalrock for the cool phrase). No one will take in a feral cat, so why would a man take in a feral female.
I was really struck by the idea that getting married to most women nowadays is getting a liability and not an asset similar to getting a degree. It’s also similar to buying a house during the housing bubble. You think the house is an asset when you buy but in a year or two it becomes clear that it’s a liability when you discover you’re underwater on your mortgage.
Rather than trying to shame men into getting married (a strategy similar to what was tried increase housing sales during the bubble that failed), socons and tradcons should focus on making women into assets and not liabilities. The socons and the tradcons will not do this so expect marriage to continue to disappear.