Over the last several days we have heard the usual litany of complaints about The Spearhead and MRAs with respect to the “language” we use. The (Not) Thinking Housewife complained about our “evil” profanity and from other places came the usual nonsense about how “scary” our language is or how we’re “scaring away women and other moderates who support us”. (“Scary” language is code orange shaming language, and “scaring away moderates” is used so much it should become it’s own category of shaming language.)
That wasn’t my actual experience, Mr. Billy Goat Gruff, I was using that as an analogy for what always happens on these boards. I wrote a post not long ago how men are demanded to act like robots and how no women and few men even acknowledge their humanity. We must follow the programming they are trying to shove down our throats at all times. Men’s pain is absolutely taboo to even speak of.
Peter Nolan has had everything he worked for for more than 20 years of his life stolen from him, been betrayed in the foulest possible manner and lied about by the woman who vowed to “cherish” him until “death do us part”, lost his children, and everyone just sort of skips over those inconvenient facts to tell him that he shouldn’t be so forceful when he talks about it, and should “tone it down.”
Men have no place to go to express their pain, anger, and anguish among other men who understand. Everyone wants to 2nd guess how he “should” be saying it, so that they don’t have to listen to or acknowledge what he is saying. It is just one subtle way that is used to suppress and silence men.
I likened it to someone who is seriously injured and in pain having that pain ignored and instead having everyone critique how he expresses it.
Zed is correct. All this talk about how a man should be speaking about these issues is a subtle attempt to silence men. If a man can’t communicate the severity of a problem, then he can’t communicate the real nature of that problem. On top of that it doesn’t matter what a man says or how severe he says it when it comes to mens rights issues. We could completely eliminate all profanity from our blog posts and comments and have them triple checked by lawyers to not offend anyone. It wouldn’t matter. No matter how good or bad our language is we would still get these accusations since it’s all about silencing men.
Talk about “scaring away moderates who support us” is similar in its attempt to silence men. If men don’t speak out about these issues, any “moderates” we might gain would be offset by the fact that they would have no knowledge of the real issues or their severity. And a lot of the “moderates” aren’t really moderates. They’re just hiding their misandry through triangulation. A real moderate who supports us wouldn’t spend years denouncing the “scary” language of The Spearhead and how it scares away moderates. A real moderate who supports us would look more like Glenn Sacks. If Sacks is aware of The Spearhead he may think it’s too extreme but that doesn’t stop him from his work in fathers rights, reforming the (anti-)family court system, ending false accusations, etc. He doesn’t complain on his blog over and over again about the “scary men on The Spearhead”. In fact these “moderates who support us” never say a word about men like Glenn Sacks much less try to work with them. This is just proof that the “moderates who support us” are neither moderate nor do they support us.
Attempting to silence men will not work. Pretending the problem doesn’t exist does not make it go away. In fact it will make the problem worse. If you’re worried about “scary” language now, you haven’t seen anything yet. Just wait until 2015 or 2020 when the current generation of boys start becoming adults. They have experienced the boot of feminism on their necks way worse than anyone reading this probably has. The Spearhead as it is now will seem tame in comparison.