Jan 032011
 

Chic Noir wrote:

yea, I’m still a little mad that you’re not pure any more but I’m mostly over it.

I really don’t understand this especially coming from a woman isn’t a virgin herself.  I’m supposed to be “pure” for what?  It’s obviously not a religious thing.  What exactly is “purity” supposed to deliver to me?

A reoccurring theme I’m noticing from being in this part of the internet is that its critics take the position of because you’re a man anything you do is wrong.  Even if you the exact opposite of something they declare as wrong, you will still be wrong for doing the opposite.  That’s how absurd it is.  Chic Noir’s “anger” over me not being “pure” anymore seems to be a variant of that type of thinking

  15 Responses to “WTF Is Being “Pure”?”

  1. “It’s obviously not a religious thing.”

    Actually, it is; if chic noir is not herself religious, I’m not sure why she’s using it, other than to try to shame you, of course.

    It is the Christian ideal to strive to be chaste; this means, for those in marriage, not unfaithful, nor overly suggestive in their conversations with others; for singles, it not only means not being careful with one’s language, but also avoiding fornication, fleeing from it, not engaging in it, etc. This is all in Scripture, esp. in the Pauline letters, if you’re interested.

    I don’t give a shit about trying to shame you, since your life is your own to live, and I couldn’t care less about what you choose to do or not do, any more than you care about my choices. But generally, if one is a practising, believing Christian, one feels compelled to strive to lead a life that is God-pleasing, and this does limit one’s actions, ruling out certain things. And as a Christian who strives, however imperfectly, to live in a God-honouring manner, I try to encourage my brethren to do likewise, and I will chastise those I see straying from this, esp. amongst those I know; I would expect my brethren and sisters to do likewise.

    But I don’t know what’s in chic noir’s head, esp. if she’s not particularly religious. Perhaps, in spite of that, she sees your having gone from avoiding having had anything to do with women, to now not only dating, but wanting to find a way to ask your woman if she’s up for a threesome, desiring such a thing, as unfortunate. I would see it as so if someone who’d been a believing Christian, regularly attending church, etc., went from abstinence to not only fornication, but striving to increase variety and experience to include threesomes, but I don’t care what those who aren’t Bible-believing, regularly church-attending folks, do with their lives; that’s their business, as far as I’m concerned.

    Understand, though, if you are interested in church, as you occasionally muse about, that it will mean joining a community of people who will expect that you live up to certain standards that they strive towards, themselves. It isn’t a matter of trying to control you, necessarily, either (though it can be, in feminized churches); it’s simply doing what Christians have always done.

    • I haven’t been able to find a church where most of the single population was practicing abstinence until marriage so that really isn’t an issue in finding a church.

      • That’s unfortunate, because they do exist, and they’re not really rare, though obviously I can’t speak to how rare they might be in your neck of the woods, as I don’t know. Thursday has talked about this, and Novaseeker may have, too.

  2. “Understand, though, if you are interested in church, as you occasionally muse about, that it will mean joining a community of people who will expect that you live up to certain standards that they strive towards, themselves. It isn’t a matter of trying to control you, necessarily, either (though it can be, in feminized churches); it’s simply doing what Christians have always done”

    Well said Will!.
    In fact ..your whole comment was a joy to read..
    I felt like clapping and cheering after I had read it..
    😀

  3. I really don’t understand this

    You are right to question the terms being used. So many people in our society do not understand the words they use so confusion is inevitable. If you care about the discussion at all, you are forced to ask, “what do you mean by that”? But normally, you can just assume that such a word is meant as a generic insult and has no specific meaning. My personal favorite mis-used word is “hypocrit”.

    “I don’t think that word means what you think it means” — Inego Montoya, From the Princess Bride.

  4. A diddy I wrote up about “purity”:

    purity

  5. Tis but a shell game.

    Pick the left one and you’re a nerdy-assed virgin misogynist who lives in his mom’s basement playing WoW with other losers because he’s scared of empowered wimmin,

    Pick the right one and you’re a manipulative sociopath preying on innocent young maidens.

    Pick the middle and you’re a boring drone and you’re not the man she married.

    Who cares? It’s just proof women assign virtue according to who not what. Ask yourself if you’d still be getting criticism if you were doing the same stuff but as Joe Supa-Alfa, complete with 17 tattoos and prison record. If the answers ‘no way’ , then the hell with it.

    • I have gotten all of that thrown at me and more. When none of that works they up the ante to you’re a reptile alien running the Illuminati using mens rights to depopulate the planet.

      • PMAFT-

        I hereby declare you a reptile alien shapeshifter Illuminati Bilderberger virgin sociopath living in your momma’s basement and preying on innocent women.

        Let it lie heavy on your conscience.

    • You forgot the bit where if you adhere to standards of chastity, but don’t overtly profess any faith, and judge the so-called faithful on their not observing chastity, you are “an instrument of Satan!”
      Funny thing that I’ve observed, in universities the Catholic girls who talk the most about “saving themselves for marriage”… are the first ones to give it up to the alphas.
      And of course, “it’s a woman’s right, and you have no right to judge”(I wonder who has the right to judge?)

  6. why does she give a shit?

    • Because she wanted more men to live up to standards that she doesn’t, wait for the invisible pink unicorn of the girl of your dreams to turn up, all the while wining and dining women who’d never match up (but you are not allowed to judge), and you should be grateful for not being called creepy while being taken as a chump for all your investment (emotional, financial, intellectual).
      People get sad when gravy train stops running.

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