These are not new categories of shaming language, just newly defined. Regardless they should be added the Catalog of Anti-Male Shaming Language. You can thank manboobz for inspiring this post since he used them both.
Charge of Preying On Weak/Damaged/Insecure Women (Code Magenta)
Discussion: Often the target is accused of being unable to get laid or get a girlfriend/wife (code tan & code purple). However, these forms of shaming language fail when it turns out the target is able to get laid and/or get girlfriends/wives. The women in the target’s life will be attacked as being weak, damaged, insecure, or otherwise dependent on the target. The accusation is that the original shaming language of not being able to get a woman/get laid is correct except that the target can get (and only get) women who are weak, damaged, insecure, have low self-esteem, etc. It’s a way of saying that a “real woman” would want nothing to do with the target. Examples:
- I feel sorry for your girlfriend/wife.
- Your girlfriend/wife has low self-esteem/psychological problems.
- The only reason you can get a woman is because the patriarchy produces anti-woman propaganda to make them desperate to have a man, any man, in their lives.
Response: The one pressing the charge is doing nothing digging a deeper hole for themselves. The original shaming tactic failed. Since the one pressing the charge is trying to claim women are the arbiter of a man’s worth, the evidence of the target’s relationship with a woman directly proves the accuser wrong. The accuser must claim that the target’s woman is not a “real woman” in some manner. However, the accuser has already failed since the evidence is against the accuser. It integrates the logical fallacy of “argumentum ad misericordiam” (viz., argumentation based on pity for women).
Charge of Non-Specific “Shameful Behavior” (Code Beige)
Discussion: As shaming language tends to fail, the target will be accused of “shameful behavior”. What this “shameful behavior” is will be poorly defined or not defined at all. Typically this accusation will come after the accuser’s attempt(s) at shaming language has been exposed, but it could be used against the target at any time. Examples:
- Your behavior is shameful.
Response: The accuser is now incapable of producing specific examples of what the target’s shameful behavior is. This means that the accuser is being emotional and has run out of arguments for their position.