It’s too bad I don’t issue a monthly Captain Picard Double Facepalm Award. If I did, this month’s winner would be Obsidian. He started out bad enough but he really dug a hole for himself with his second post. I haven’t said anything because so much of it has already been covered effectively by others from the race baiting, to the bizarre claims that Spearhead commenters are anti-hygene, to the refusal to answer simple questions of why should any of the “slobs” dress up since they have better game than Obsidian and don’t need to, etc. I decided to write this post because after taking a look at some of the links in the comments of Obsidian’s second post I noticed something, how this was being used in a way that facilitated more shaming language. Take what Susan Walsh wrote:
Hi Obs, I just left a comment on your blog. I read the Spearhead comments, but honestly, I feel really uncomfortable over there. It’s the online equivalent of walking home alone late at night in a dark alley. Cue the scary music. I think your post is right on.
Late at night in a dark alley? So if you go to The Spearhead you might get mugged like if you were alone late at night in a dark alley???? I have never even heard of someone getting mugged over the internet but I guess there’s a first time for everything. If you have been reading this blog for a while you should recognize this immediately as code orange shaming language. Susan Walsh at least stuck to only one form of shaming language. Chic Noir used multiple colors of shaming language in one paragraph:
Many of them may well be frustrated virgins(nothing wrong with being a male virgin). Others have mental issues. Another group are gay or closeted gay men ,and a smaller number may have horrible relationships with their mothers.
She forgot to include how anyone who visits The Spearhead has a small dick too. Nobody should be surprised that Obsidian got this level of disagreement. He’s obsessed with the idea that white guys in this part of the internet have an “irrational hatred” for Michelle Obama and claims that we “need therapy”. What he’s talking about does not exist. How many white guys around here even give that much thought to Michelle Obama? I don’t. I have many other more important things to think about. Remember guys you “need therapy” if you don’t spend at least 3 hours a day thinking positive thoughts about Michelle Obama. Obsidian doesn’t stop there because he claims again that white guys need therapy and have a bunch of neuroses. This is code white shaming language. There’s a reason why I am pointing out some of the shaming language used here. It’s the same reason the Catalog of Anti-Male Shaming Language exists. It’s because shaming language is used to attempt to shut down debate and the raising of legitimate concerns. A lot of what happened here had to do with how Obsidian refused to answer a few legitimate questions. It reminds me of how when men bring up legitimate concerns about the marriage system, for example, the response is to step up the shaming language. Shaming language has nothing to do with the men it is used against. Instead it tells us everything we need to know about the user and that is what we see here.