MarkyMark on his blog has a story from fuckedcompany.com about the hell one man is going through being married to a woman. You can follow the link to read all the details. The upshot is this man got married, and his life is a living hell now thanks to the behavior of his wife.
In reading the comments to this post on MM’s blog it’s amazing the lengths people will go even anti-feminist men will go to absolve women of their behavior. It’s a triangle as I mentioned in the title because there are 3 angles in which men are being blamed for the behavior of women:
- The female angle of the guy must have “done something” to piss his wife off. This is the point of view in the first comment on MM’s blog to this story by “Kimberly”. (She’s tries to backpedal on this later, but it’s still somehow the “man’s fault”.) It’s clear that the woman is responsible for her own behavior, but someone this guy had “done something” to piss his wife off despite the fact that if a man acted the same way he would be considered psychotic.
- The pseudo-alpha (I say pseudo-alpha since as I have pointed out most supposed alphas aren’t really alphas) angle said by “Keoni Galt” of that the guy needs to “man up”. (Yes, this is borderline shaming language.) In this case, it’s because the guy isn’t dominating his wife enough. Again, the wife is acting psychotic. Why should a man have to act a certain way just so his wife acts like a NORMAL HUMAN BEING? (Before anybody points out how this worked for Keoni Galt remember there was a 50/50 chance he would be sitting in jail now because his wife felt “threatened”. Think about that.) Beyond that I know that I like many other men like to relax occasionally, and you can never relax with this option because then it will fail.
- The male feminist angle which really isn’t represented in the comments is sort of hit on by the guy having the problem (offering to do the dishes and the like). The male feminist will claim that its the man’s fault because he didn’t understand what his wife was going through or some other nonsense. The male feminist will also claim things like how the man needs to wash the dishes to show that he isn’t part of the patriarchy oppressing her or some other crap. As we can see from the story that doesn’t work. (This also could be called the beta or herb angle.)
What all of these things have in common is that the man is blamed for his wife’s behavior which in original story is clearly psychotic. These three angles create a triangle that surround and trap the man. The man can try to solve this problem by assuming that one of the three angles is correct in defining the problem and trying to solve that problem. However, whatever angle the man picks it will not work. Even if he tries another side of the triangle it still won’t work.
On top of all this by picking one side of this triangle, the man is not picking the other two. Why is this important? Because they all can say that the man is still wrong even if he picks one of the supposed problems to solve. In other words, the man is running around and around while his wife is acting all psychotic. It allows all three sides of the triangle to blame him for his wife’s behavior almost forever since by definition according to two thirds of the triangle the man is always wrong.
What is the key to breaking out of this triangle? It’s going your own way, namely MGTOW. What happened was this man let himself get into a position where what was happening in his life was defined by insane people (i.e. his wife) and people who are trying to prop up women to their own benefit (women, pseudo-alphas, and male feminists/herbs). The entire point of this triangle is to trap a man. If all a man sees are the sides of a triangle, he can’t escape from it. The MGTOW concept gives men a way out of this trap.
A MGHOW will still get blamed by women, pseudo-alphas, and male feminists because its in their interest to do so. However, a MGHOW will not be trapped in the hell that the guy from the original story is in. A MGHOW is able to live his life the way he wants.